Synchronicity, overthinking and John Green

I think there is a dotted line between synchronicity and just simply overthinking but the other half of my brain is convincing me that they might be inherently linked.

SYNCHRONICITY: the simultaneous occurrence of events which appear significantly related but have no discernible casual connection.

OVERTHINKING: think about something too much or for too long.

I realised this about two nights ago when I was attempting to explain to my sister how John Green has been showing up in my life, throughout the whole conversation she was heavily sighing and thought me to be exaggerating the whole thing BUT let me hear what you guys think, so….

The first time John Green showed up in my life was through The Fault In Our Stars which is my favorite novel (I don’t cringe whenever I say that, neither do I feel like the worst bibliophile, it’s THAT deep), The Fault In Our Stars is the love of my life but I refuse to bore you guys with the gory details of the amount of love I have for the book. Just know that I’ll name my first daughter Hazel Grace. The second time was when I got Turtles All The Way Down on my birthday on the 28th of Jan, after that I got myself Looking For Alaska, unintentionally and very much oblivious to the fact that it was the second time I’m getting a John Green novel on my birthday.

So I have a review site, it’s my new baby. I just wanted to dip my toes in the review world a bit, it has been a joy ride. I was rereading Turtles All The Way Down so I could review it for “John Green week”, a friend comes along and we chat for a bit and he says I should read Looking For Alaska because he just watched the film and he’s itching to get his hands on the novel. Which I find to be crazy because here I am rereading a “John Green” novel and he came and told me about yet another book by Green.

I don’t know, it all sounds crazy right now as I’m writing this but this has to mean something, right?

BLOG SHOUT OUTS🎉:

http://calmwildness.co.ke/thats/me

http://changetherapy.org.uk

The Hypocrisy Of Women’s Month

I think we sort of undermine the amount of violence and abuse women experience during this month, which ironically is suppose to celebrate women. Studies have shown that the current messaging that exists during women’s month (women being appreciated), this manages to aggravate men and make them feel the need to assert their dominance and masculinity. How fragile that must be.

A woman is murdered every three hours and 51 percent of South African women have experienced violence at the hands of someone with whom they are in a relationship. The femicide and rape stats tend to spike up during this month every year.

Men feel entitled to our bodies, they sexualise us, make us hate our god given bodies and they definitely know NOT to rape, Not to abuse, I feel there is no need for us to keep reminding them, they know that what they are doing is wrong. The sad part is, we can post, create hashtags and women still get killed, they still get raped. This is the pandemic we are facing, have been facing for years.

A man touched me without my consent a few days ago, my worst nightmare became true. I just stood there my knees waiting for instructions, they have not been told to fight back. I resented my body because it was not my body, it was a language I didn’t speak in a country I did not know. Funny how quick that happened. I burned the dress I wore that day and kept all memory of him and his hands in the basement of my mind. I guess I’m lucky to not have died.

To My Next Love:

Hi love, I’m Angel. This is for you.

  • Understand I’m still fragile so handle me with caution.
  • I have crippling cynophobia, I pray you don’t own a dog.
  • Hope you will be comfortable with our kids being named after fictional characters.
  • Pay attention to know which parts of my body are storing pain.
  • Hopefully you appreciate dry wit and sarcasm, I have loads.
  • Can you love me in a way we can both agree upon.
  • Tiramisu keeps me alive.
  • Only use words I recognize.
  • If ever you make me cry be soft enough to make them stop.
  • I’ve been told I have a tendency to love hard so I’ll try to love you gently.
  • I’ve spent a lifetime looking for you.
  • I hope I’m the best love you’ve ever known.
  • Memorize how many muscles it takes to make a smile and make sure my face isn’t missing any.

Life Behind A Mask

What are you smiling about behind your mask?

Getting ready in the morning now constitutes of me deciding on which mask I want to wear. I’m also aware that you guys are fed up with reading about anything “pandemic related”, believe me I’m tired as well but please power through this one, it’s short.

Prior miss Rona hitting I would usually take an hour just getting ready, mind you I don’t wear make up. Not only that but throughout the day I’m staring at any mirror I come across on the way, the day would pretty much end with me feeling ugly and hating the outfit I took 1 hour deciding upon. Now though, I honestly just wear whatever I want and get on with my day whilst having a good conversation about the weather with myself behind my mask. WHAT A TIME TO BE ALIVE!!!!

Not to say that wearing a mask magically got rid of all my self loathing but what this time forced me to confront is myself and all my toxic traits. I’ll forever be proud of all the minimal changes I undergo. Looking at myself in the mirror and smiling, not finding my forehead to be the worst feature on my face, calling myself beautiful, at this point I might be on the verge of shedding a few tears because wow it has been a lot, it also has been the mot beautiful thing I’ve got to witness.

ANYWAY. Enough about that. are you having a good day? have you noticed how beautiful your eyes are?  I hope so.

        

Slump update and blog shout outs

Slump update: Things are starting to look up, I’m gradually going back to normal. All I can say is, change your routine, change your scenery, have more fun, do all the things you love, rest when necessary and lastly enjoy all the ebbs and flows of this life.

Blog shout outs: I will be sending a shout out to two bloggers in every post, just so we can all grow and support one another in this community.

MY FIRST BLOG SHOUT OUTS GOES TO MY QUEENS ELLE AND OLIVIA, IF YOU WANT GREAT CONSISTENT CONTENT GIVE THEM A FOLLOW AND  BE SURE TO SHOWER THEM WITH LOVE.

THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS SPACE WITH ME.    

REACHING 100+ FOLLOWERS🎉🎉

📸: Kianna Naomi

Humble greetings to all 146 of you!!

I finally reached 100+ followers on WordPress. Am I not screaming???I’m so happy and proud of how far I have come with my blog. My god has damned nothing in me. My goal was to reach 100 followers before quarantine ends and I just did that and surpassed it.

I genuinely love and appreciate every blogger that reads my stuff. I literally just went from having 5 journals filled to the brim with my random thoughts and rants to this!! To writing for people all over the world, inspiring other beings, making someone smile, making someone’s day…WHATTT. That alone truly humbles me and I’m internally grateful for this platform.

So, as a way to say thank you to you guys I will be linking your blogs down below, please be sure check out the blogs I will link down below, I swear they are amazing and worth the click.

These are only some of the links, I’m going to be adding more as time goes on.

P. S. Please comment with the link of your blog, I’ll add it to the list. If I forgot to mention your blog please don’t take offense . Love and light💞

GETTING OUT OF A SLUMP 101

DAY 1:

Hello guys. I have been receiving so much love on my blog, its crazy. I would like to take this opportunity to thank each and every one of you who read my stuff, like, comment and just shower me with love you’re appreciated.

so…as you may have gathered already, I’m getting out of a slump or at least attempting to, I think I have been in creative ruts since quarantine started but I spent this time showing my fellow bloggers some love and connecting with new bloggers which has been a bunch of fun.

I’m writing this blog as a way to combat laziness. Interesting fact is just as I may be attempting to get out of a slump there is 60% of the world’s population trying to do the same, which goes to affirm just how much the self-improvement industry is booming and will continue to do so for the next upcoming years.

The self-help industry keeps making millions every year, this industry is currently dominating the US and possibly the rest of the world. It is estimated to grow to $13.2 billion by 2022.

I would like to know your thoughts on this and please share how you get out of a rut, it could help someone else. Love and light.

L’amore vince tutto

ATTRAVERSIAMO – LET’S CROSS OVER

Music does unspeakable things to my mind, body and soul. It restores hope, fills me with love, holds my hand through heart breaks, kisses me with affirmations when I’m down and out, allows me to be sad, and takes me to places I only dream of going.

Right now, I’m in Italy. In my little apartment that overlooks the sea, the sun greets me good morning. I’m alone and in love. I decide to grace the Italian streets with a brisk walk. On my way back home I take a little detour and get myself some fresh flowers. Daniel Caesar serenades me with his voice in the background, I tell him I’m fully present as I take every melody in. I eat my breakfast and get ready to go to Starbucks…. as a barista this time.

I’m exactly where I’m suppose to be, doing something I’ve always wanted to do. I couldn’t be more in love.

SUNSHINE BLOGGER AWARD

Hey guys, I got nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award again🎉🎉. Getting these awards always leave me feeling overwhelmed and immensely grateful, it never gets old. Thank you Nina for the nomination, you’re amazing, your blogs are even more amazing, check them out. Also very sorry for the delay.

RULES:

  • Thank the Blogger who nominated you and link back to their blog
  • Answer the 11 questions given to you
  • Nominate any other bloggers and write them 11 new questions (if you want)
  • List the rules and display the sunshine blogger award logo in your post

DESCRIBE YOUR BLOGGING JOURNEY IN THREE WORDS?

Honest. Fun. Worthy.

WHO ARE YOU OUTSIDE YOUR BLOG?

An athletic book worm.

DO YOU HAVE A DAILY MANTRA? IF SO, WHAT IS It?

It gets better”

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE BLOG POST AND WHY?

“finding love in the 21st century” it was so much fun coming up with ideas to make the “falling in love” experience great and peculiar because who wants to do things the normal, traditional way? NOT ME

WHAT ARE THE THREE THINGS YOU ARE GRATEFUL FOR TODAY?

Life. Books. Love

WHICH HABIT ARE YOU PROUD OF BREAKING?

Doubting myself and my craft.

WHAT ACTIVITY MAKES YOU LOSE TRACK OF TIME?

Reading a good book, binging on series, playing with my nephew and YouTube.

WHAT FICTIONAL CHARACTER DO YOU RELATE TO THE MOST?

Madeline Whittier, from Everything Everything

NETFLIX AND CHILL OR NIGHT OUT PARTYING?

Netflix and chill please.

WHAT’S THE LAST MOVIE YOU WATCHED?

Baby mama

WHAT FOOD DO YOU CRAVE MOST OFTEN?

Tiramisu!!

Again, thank you Nina for the nomination it means the world (literally).

I’m going to go ahead and nominate anyone who wants to answer these questions. Matter of fact, I’m nominating you, yes YOU! . WHY? because I think you’re beautiful and you deserve this. Don’t get me started about your writing skills, cause that could take the whole day. Now, go on accept it. Thanks.

Literature Dose Post Apocalypse

Earbuds on. Caffeinated. Favorite tote. Ready to splurge some money on novels.

EN ROUTE: BOOKSHOP

I can’t wait to go to the bookshop again, with no mask, no restrictions, just a simple 2-3 hour graceful stroll with my face fully visible. Including the prospect of finding a little Mr Darcy at the end of the classic romance section, with a stern face of course.

I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one. So, I’ve conjured up a list of books I’m going to get post apocalypse, just so I don’t get derailed by every single entity in a form of literature staring at me big eyed. Join me my little bibliophiles as I list the next novels that will inhabit my home and heart. Also, please do share novels you think deserve the privilege to be cradled in these strong arms of mine.

  • On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous – Ocean Vuong
  • A Little Life – Hanya Yanagihara
  • Pride And Prejudice – Jane Austen
  • After – Anna Todd
  • Little Women – Louisa May Alcott
  • The Female Brain – Lounna Brizendine
  • Stay With Me – Ayobami Adebayo

📸:missenocha